I saw this on the fabulous blog, Lay Baby Lay, and thought it applied to some emotions that I have been feeling lately. I am so excited to have Baby Sally....I can't even tell you how excited I am...but there is a part of me that wonders how it will affect me and Joe. I know that babies take up a lot of time but I worry about Joe and I won't have "our" time anymore. I know it is something that we will have to make time for. It has been just the two of us (three if you count Hank) for so long, it will be strange to have another person in the mix. My friends who have kids have told me that yes, it does change your relationship with your husband...but for the better. Making the decision to have a baby was something we decided after years of spending time together and having adventures. I think this is just another crazy adventure in the "World of Sarah and Joe". Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Is it bad for me to feel this way? Or normal??
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I've been a mommy for 12 years now. I have a boy and a girl. And I know exactly what your feeling. My life was much more complicated way back when, but yes it does change the relationship, but it's all up to you and your husband on how you will deal with this new life adventure...and it's quite the adventure!To know this prior to baby's arrival is lucky. I was so young that I had no idea what I was in for! and now I know. When this wonderful bundle makes your life even more busier than it is now, you have to make time for yourself and designate a date night and time of day you and your husband can claim as your own for the last 11 years 8pm is adult. Yes my 12 yr old goes to bed at 8! And I keep it that way to keep my sanity :) Once you get your schedule down (and baby sleeping through the night)things will be good. Just always make sure you & your husband are always on the same page, and stay consistent! I'm a huge advocate for staying consistent...it will make your life that much easier :) Good luck!
xo,
Eeka
Totally normal. Your life is never, ever going to be the same. But you won't care! It's natural to be nervous about it and it's good you spent so much time together doing things you love. Always make time for each other and your adventures but remember the one you are about to embark upon is the biggest and most important one of your lives and you will love each other more b/c of it:) There will be times you will want to kill each other (it's stressful!) but at the end of the day you will love that man all the more for creating a precious little life with you.
It's completely normal. You are lucky in that you spent a lot of time with your husband before you decided to have a baby. My husband and I started trying to get pregnant as soon as we got married, so we didn't have a whole lot of time with just the two of us. Do you have family close by? If you do and they're willing to take the baby for the weekend once in awhile, you can still have your alone time, plus new adventures as a family! Congratulations!
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